In a viral Reddit post, u/Ready-Significance13, explained she is six months pregnant and working two jobs whilst her 28-year-old partner looks for employment.

The popular post has received more than 12,600 upvotes and the top comment alone has received 36,500 upvotes.

Newsweek spoke to Juliette Karaman, a certified mind and body coach who specializes in relationships, sex, intimacy, trauma, and healing, about the 21-year-old’s post. Karaman said: “This story is about much more than just getting a burger or not getting her a burger.”

The original poster (OP) explained her boyfriend moved in when they found out she was pregnant.

“I’m training to be a teacher and he’s currently looking for employment, technically I’m working two jobs to support the both of us it’s tiring, but he’s looking so it’s not over that. There’s a local burger place I’d been wanting, we rarely go but I’ve been having cravings—they shut at a certain time,” she wrote.

She told other users the place shuts at 9 p.m. and she didn’t get home until 8:40 p.m. But her boyfriend hadn’t ordered the food, despite saying he would.

“By the time he went to it was too late, I started crying because I’d been craving that all week and all I wanted was a burger and a hot shower, I couldn’t even have a shower since he used the last of the hot water,” she said.

“He didn’t apologize and offered to go to Burger King, which I didn’t want and he got all silent claiming I’m being an A****** since he’s been job hunting all day.”

The OP explained that her day started at 6 a.m. and ended at 9:30 p.m., whereas her boyfriend’s day started at 9 a.m. and finished at 9:30 p.m.

“We got into an argument about how we’re comparing days and that he’s overwhelmed. I asked him to leave because I don’t like arguing and he had to stay in his car since he moved in with me (away from friends).

“He argued that I’m blowing it out of the window because I’m pregnant and not considering his feelings because he’s overwhelmed, so am I? My friends say I’m the a****** because he’s probably in over his head and had to sleep in his car over a burger,” she said.

Karaman said: “This story is about much more than just getting a burger or not getting her a burger. It looks to me that they have little or no communication at all here. It all boils down to actually having some good boundaries, some good communication skills, and really knowing what it is that you both want for the relationship.

“If she’s the one working two jobs, and he’s living with her and doesn’t have a job, then perhaps, they need to make some deals and some rules because you can’t expect a person who is working two jobs and pregnant for six months to provide all of this—food in the house, cooked dinner, tidy house, etc.

“There’s also a bit of a victim mentality there where she’s like ‘oh, you know, I do all of these things, and you’re not doing anything for me,’ which is completely understandable at this point. Perhaps she can look back into her past and start looking at where she was over giving and where she was the one providing. Perhaps she had a past where she had not been given things, and then when someone helped her out, it felt really good.

“And is she actually doing this because she wants to be in the relationship or because it makes her feel empowered? We often wear that drama triangle—the rescuer, the victim, and the perpetrator—and we move from every spot.

“So, we are rescuing someone at the same time telling him that he’s not good enough, he is not helping us, and then at the same time we are the victim and we say to ourselves ‘oh poor me.’ But the truth is that nobody here is bad—she or he. But it’s like the behavior that they’re both exhibiting is not great. And that’s what needs to be talked about.”

What Do the Comments Say?

The top comment said: “When you said that you got pregnant and he moved in, I assumed that that was to help you and kiddle to start a family. Apparently not the case at all. I’m going to be very harsh here. He has to stop talking about finding a job and find a goddamn job.

“You have to stop working two jobs to help support him. Your job is to support that baby not him. Actually, that’s his job as well. You may notice I have not discussed the burger and that’s because it’s irrelevant. You are Not the A****** but you need to take several steps back and evaluate your options.”

Another user said: “Not only did he fail at providing her sustenance while she’s pregnant and working TWO JOBS but he used ALL of the hot water… Doing what, exactly? Bet it wasn’t dishes or laundry.”

Newsweek reached out to @Ready-Significance13 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.